Comittment (how do you spell that?)
Yes that is true, I never know how to spell committment…
I love new opportunities, traveling to new places, making new friends, starting new projects with many many layers. Generally I love to do everything, so commitment to a specific few or even one thing does not come naturally to me, and actually makes me very nervous.
Recently this fear has been really eating away at me. Over Christmas I started reading about commitment phobia. I like this exert, perfect for my love challenge:
“I firmly believe that showing commitment to something, or someone, is one of life’s most empowering (and liberating) experiences. It’s how we achieve; how we grow; how we learn; and how we love.
Yes, commitment is love.“
From the Self Help Collective on All About Fear of Commitment
And I love this quote:
“When women hold off from marrying men, we call it independence.
When men hold off from marrying women, we call it fear of commitment.”
– Warren Farrell
January 11th, 2010 at 2:46 am
Thanks for sharing some of my thoughts on ‘fear of commitment’, Maia – a subject I am all too familiar with!
Interestingly, the subjects of fear (and happiness) were the easiest for me to write about on my self help site – I just wrote down the first thoughts that came to me.
Not that I have a magical cure for this (or any)fear, of course, but understanding how debilatating (how do you spell *that* word, lol) these fears can be is important. As is awareness that you have the fear. I think both are required to help you overcome any fear.
So I think your idea of taking commitment to be a love challenge is a brilliant one. You’re not trying to overcome (a bad thing like) fear, instead you’re trying to further embrace (a great thing like) love.
Great idea. Where will you start?
Steve